Yesterday, I received an e-mail invitation from Dr. Stephan Bajon for a Meetup.com meeting. Dr. Bajon is the doctor who did the Darkfield Live Cell Microscopy work on my blood for Jorge Cruise‘s upcoming documentary, “Death By Sugar” (You can see a trailer for the film that features both Dr. Bajon and me by clicking here, and if you want to read more about the experience, click here to read it here on my blog.)
Dr. Bajon’s invitation had the note “This has helped me with reducing a great deal of stressful beliefs.” and when I looked at the information about the meeting, I saw that it was for that night, which I fortunately had free. Without really looking into what the meeting was about I decided I would go. The reason I chose to do this without researching it is that I met Dr. Bajon through Jorge Cruise. How I ended up meeting and working with Jorge Cruise was through too many fortuitous coincidences that I have no other explanation for how it’s happened other than the Law of Attraction has made it happen. (That perhaps is a story for another blog entry.)
As my meeting Dr. Bajon has been an extension of my having manifested a mentor to guide me through the process of losing weight and the invitation was for an event on a night I didn’t already have plans for, it just felt to me like it was meant to happen. So I’m learning to trust that feeling and see where it takes me, and last night it took to an event where I was introduced to a methodology known as “The Work” created by a woman named Byron Katie.
Essentially, The Work is a process by which people “can end their own suffering” as it says on TheWork.com website. How people are suffering is by the power people allow their thoughts to have over their lives. And most people tend to give the most power to the destructive thoughts in their mind. As people are often their own harshest critics, it’s these self-defeating thoughts that are limiting their ability to grow and become the kind of people the want to become. By utilizing a process of inquiry (or basically a series of questions) people can essentially shine a flashlight onto the destructive thoughts, see them for what they are, and remove the power those thoughts have had over their lives.
The thoughts won’t go away, but the emotional charge they have will. Through the process of The Work people have found their depression disappear, stress levels reduce, their relationships with others improve, get angry less often, as well as find more mental clarity, energy, and peace. And the process is amazingly simple, it can even be done alone or with a facilitator.
How The Work works is to take an emotionally charged thought that has power over you, something that when you say it causes a tightening reaction in your gut. Some of the more common examples of powerfully charged statements are:
I am not good enough
I need money
I have to work hard
My boss should appreciate me
Life Is not fair
Other people have it better than I do
I’m too fat (or thin)
People are judging me
As you can see these thoughts can be just about any thought that’s running through your mind whether you intellectually know its true or false for you, but on a subconscious level causes your body to have an anxiety reaction to it. You pick which ever one is bothering you at the moment, and work on it with a series of four questions and a process of turning the thought around so that you look at it from a different perspective.
1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?
These four questions are designed to let you look at whether you believe the thought to be true, then take a moment to think if there are any cases where that thought might not be true. Then you state how the thought makes you feel, and then describe what kind of person you would be if you didn’t have that thought or maybe even how how you’d feel if that thought was no longer there.
The real work of the process comes after these lead in questions, you have to come up with a way to turn the thought around. Maybe its an opposite, maybe it’s a slightly different variation. If we use the “My boss should appreciate me” example from above, we could come up with “My boss does appreciate me,” “I should appreciate me,” or “I should appreciate my boss.” Just pick one turn around to start with, then come up with three examples of how the turned around statement is as true or more true than the original statement. Then do another turn around and find three more examples of how that turn around is true, and do it again until you feel the original statement has no power anymore or you can’t think of any other ways to turn the thought around.
Essentially, the process is taking one negative thought that has become a belief to you and finding several examples that completely disprove that belief. This will rob that belief of its power over your life. The thought won’t go away completely, but now instead of feeling tightness in your gut, the statement will have as much emotional reaction to it as “The grass is green.” And the answers come from the person with the belief, so this is how the process can be done alone or with a facilitator. The facilitator acts as a sounding board and doesn’t offer solutions, but rather helps draw them out of the person with the belief.
What I think is most powerful about The Work is that the information is freely given, the meeting was not a sales presentation for some package of CDs and DVDs that costs hundreds of dollars. In fact, you can even go to TheWork.com and find certified The Work practitioners that you can call free of charge to have them work with you on a belief. Some of them even offer the option to connect via Skype so there’s no charge at all even for the call if you’re calling computer to computer. Practitioners are located throughout the world so you can find one that’s available during hours that are most convenient to you. Many of them can even do in person private sessions for a fee.
You can even download for free forms that step you through the process of doing the Work on yourself. There’s even videos of some example sessions to show how the process works and the emotional freedom people gain from the experience. And of course, there is the option to purchase books, CDs, DVD’s, and even seminar opportunities if you wish too learn more, but none of the high pressure sales pitch you often find whenever you encounter anything these days. A very refreshing change. It feels like it’s coming from an abundance mentality in that they have such confidence in the power and helpfulness of their information they’re freely giving it away. When you benefit from it you can give back by making a purchase for additional information at TheWork.com.
Now you may feel that you might have encountered other methodologies that accomplish very similar objectives, and that was certainly the case for me. I found The Work to be very similar to two other methodologies that I’ve been taught at Raymond Aaron‘s Mulberry Hill Gang seminars. The first of which is the Solutions Focus methodology which can be applied to a great many things besides limiting beliefs, in fact, it’s often used as business consulting. Solutions focus was developed by Paul Jackson and Mark McKergow. In Solutions Focus, the approach is to analyze the problem by not problem solving (which is focusing on the negative). Instead, Solutions Focus focuses on what is working (the positive) and finding ways to make it work even better, so that you’re building on your strengths and letting deficiencies drop by the wayside. Like The Work, the solutions come from within, the facilitator in a Solutions Focus session just helps draw them out. To learn more about Solutions Focus visit, TheSolutionsFocus.com
The other methodology I was introduced to at the Mulberry Hill Gang Seminars was “The Lefkoe Method” which is all about eliminating limiting beliefs. Developed by Morty and Shelley Lefkoe, the process is probably the most similar to The Work in that a limiting belief is worked on and light gets shed on how that belief is not true and this freeing people from their former beliefs. The Lefkoe Method has been successfully helped people completely overcome the fear of public speaking, the fear of flying, and even one case, a woman who had a fear of stairs. And amazingly the Lefkoe Method can even improve a golfer’s game by lowering their handicap by twenty percent, just through eliminating beliefs. To learn more about the Lefkoe Method, visit LefkoeInstitute.com. If you’re interested in their package for eliminating the fear of public speaking, click here, and for the package for golf, click here. And to try out the Lefkoe Method for free on one of three limiting beliefs, click here.