I had actually rented from Netflix James Arthur Ray’s DVD called “Harmonic Wealth” at the end of July prior to the tragedy of a few people dying in a sweat lodge in Sedona at one of his events. I did not rent it out of any morbid curiosity, but rather I quite enjoy “The Secret” and I had actually attended an event here in San Diego where James Ray was pitching his Harmonic Wealth program.
However, the DVD sat in my pile untouched until about a week ago. For some reason I’ve just not been able to bring myself to put it in the DVD player and watch it. And when I finally did, I just watched about twenty minutes of it before I turned it off, then a couple days later resumed where I left off, paused again for another couple days and then finally finishing it off today. I just couldn’t do it in one sitting.
I think part of it is due to the fact that following the event I wanted to say hello to James Ray and give him a copy of a mix CD I made of songs that have a “Law Of Attraction” feel about them. I wanted to present a copy of it to James Ray as a thank you for the inspiration I got from his segments in “The Secret.” And when I finally got my opportunity to present it to him, he quickly handed it off to his assistant and asked me if I was going to come to one of his Harmonic Wealth weekends and I said that would not be able to do it at this time, he had absolutely no interest in me or my presenting him with a sign of my gratitude.
I guess I was a little disgusted with his response because he wasn’t getting money out of me right then and there and it’s certainly lessened my appreciation of him and his message. Had he have been a bit more gracious, I think I certainly would have considered attending one of his events because I did feel like he had information that I would like to learn. But since he was kind of an asshole to me, I definitely ruled out every giving him any money for a seminar event.
While the DVD sat in my pile, the whole tragedy where some people died during a sweat lodge component of one of his events, occurred and it definitely put an additional cloud of doubt in my mind of how much faith I should hold in his information. Afterall I had my negative experience when I met James Ray already hindering me and now some people who have put their faith in James Ray in the hopes of getting a spiritual awakening are dead as a result of the faith they placed in him and his teachings.
And now that I’ve watched the DVD, I’m just not sure what to think. I do think the information does have merit, but at the same time, I’m having a hard time getting past his being an asshole when I met him. He had complete disregard of me and my CD that I presented to him. It literally went from my hands into his and handed off to his assistant in less than twenty seconds. He didn’t even look at it, or really acknowledge that I had presented a token of my gratitude and then became even more dismissive of me when I wasn’t able to part with any of my money for his program.
By contrast, I had also had the opportunity to meet and present a copy of the CD to Bob Proctor, also from “The Secret.” a couple of weeks later and not only did Bob look at it, he even looked me right in the eye and thanked me for it, and asked if I had included my contact information with it. I hadn’t because I thought he might think that a bit too self serving, but he specifically asked me to provide it and gave me the opportunity to give him one of my business cards as well and he then thanked me again. I never did hear another thing from Bob Proctor if he ever listened to the CD or not, but in the moment, he was considerably more gracious than James Ray was and even though I was also unable to purchase Bob Proctor’s program that night, he was still very kind and generous with a few moments of his time. I have complete respect for Bob Proctor where I’m not so sure with James Ray.
So I’m just not sure what to think at the moment. Should I allow my negative experience with James Ray in person and the recent tragedy to be a reason to dismiss the message he has to offer? Or should I learn what I can from it? I just don’t know. I suppose deep down, my gut feeling is that his teaching is more profit driven than an actual desire to help people. But being profit minded doesn’t necessarily mean the information he offers is any less valid or true. So that is my dilemma of the day.